All Women were fearfully and wonderfully created as masterpieces by God. Psalm 139:14 | NKJV. How awesome is that? Knowing that we all share the same makeup by our Father is so amazing. If that’s who He created us to be, why then, aren’t we more supportive of one another? Reality shows, social media, family gatherings, the workplace and even the place where we worship, all display women not getting along. In plain sight, we witness jealousy, competition, disrespect and even physical episodes instead of witnessing the strength and compassion of coming together to support one another.
You see, there is one thing that’s missing. Our mindset of appreciating and accepting
each other’s unique abilities. Yes, we were all fearfully and wonderfully made but with a uniqueness that compliments what another woman has differently. Our uniqueness is what allows us to build each other up, inspire, encourage and show support in love. Our uniqueness separates our God given talents. Our uniqueness allows us to give back, the gifts that we were blessed with. In other words, if we were created as a masterpiece, we are a workmanship that can do good things. Good things that He planned for us long ago. Imagine that! There is no time to be messy with pettiness towards our sisters. We all are Phenomenal Women. We all have
amazing gifts to share. We all have no reason to feel inferior or superior towards one another.
This is a new day and if I’m gifted to lead and my sister is gifted to write, then why shouldn’t I build her up with encouragement, support, and love, instead of wasting precious energy trying to tear her down. Allow me to share five key values that can help you avoid those moments of dislike towards another woman.
1. R-E-S-P-E-C-T Her: Stay in your lane and avoid getting into hers. What a woman wants you to know, she will share with you without you trying to push your way into her business. Saturate these words and find them useful to understanding the level of respect you should have for other women:
1) Regard her privacy.
2) Esteem her uniqueness.
3) Show her you care.
4) Pick your battles with her wisely.
5) Expect the best in her.
6)Transfer your knowledge to her.
2. Pray for Her: When women come together and pray, they are standing in the gap for one another during difficult and unproblematic times. It’s a powerful movement. Prayer unites women from a spiritual realm. Prayer connects women in a way that brings less friction and more love towards one another. When we encounter life experiences, having a sister team praying together can turn a bad day into a good day in a split second.
3. Cheer for Her: Women who are in their season of greatness can always benefit from other women who support her dream with genuineness. Reaching her successes was not a solo process and she wants nothing more than to acknowledge those who cheered her on. Women may say that they don’t need other women in their circle, but the truth is, having a circle of loyal friends (large or small) is what helps her reach that level of greatness with enthusiasm. Women may have disagreements, arguments, some dishonest moments or even an unpleasant situation a time or two but when they cheer each other on genuinely with no motives, what you’re really witnessing, is women determined to withstand the difficult moments without judging one another.
4. Believe in Her: Most Woman are thriving to make their dreams come true and really aren’t expecting accolades of any kind. Her vision may not be a vision that everyone can relate to, understand or even like, but it’s her vision. Believe the best for her and keep her lifted in prayer if you think she’s heading down the wrong path instead of using gossip to tear down what she believes in. Remember that there is life or death in the power of words so speak life when it comes to your sisters.
5. Love Her: Yes, love her! The kind of love I’m speaking about is the kind that God
expects from us. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is a great scripture in understanding how God feels about us loving one another with no conditions. Love your sister enough to fix her crown if it needs some adjustment. She needs you just as much as you need her and together, you form a powerful sisterhood!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.